The Beauty of Friendship!

Honoring the Life of a Dear Old Friend in L.A. …who is not so old!

 

The Beauty of Friendship!

The Beauty of Friendship ~ December 26, 2015

 

30 something years ago I received a call from a woman I had never met.  A mutual friend connected us. Shortly after that call we met for the first time and began a beautiful friendship that lasted for many years…a decade or so.  And then we lost touch.  Almost 20 years passed before we would meet again and reconnect.  Such a Blessing from high above!  The Divine knows exactly who is meant to be in your life, at exactly the right moments. It’s rare that a friendship like ours comes together in one’s lifetime for so many years, and then separates for a while, only to reconnect years later…wiser, more at peace, and much more aware.

 

Our lives have changed in so many ways. We have both built businesses and traveled at least several hundred thousand miles or more in our growth and learning along the path. Conscious awareness, and a reality check on what is really important in one’s life has been a cornerstone for me, as I’m sure it has been for my friend.  As for me, I know my breasts are bigger and longer, and even closer to my waistline than they used to be. I know my Heart is more open and receptive than it has been for a decade or so, after so much loss and longing. I know my mind is more alert and aware than it has ever been.  I also know my waistline has added on a couple of inches. And I know for sure that I live in Grace and Gratitude every day, for everything that is.  Especially this Present Moment of Life.  I am Grateful.

 

The blessings of friendship are some of the sweetest blessings I have ever known in my Life. They gift me with a sweetness and a wholeness that makes me feel complete.  So does Nature.  Honor your close friends. Give them everything you’ve got!  Recognize their inner beauty. They are precious souls living along side you.  Love and friendship are so sacred and precious. Every person that sits at your table, and every friend that arrives in your life is a Blessing from high above.  Recognize it. Savor it. Appreciate it. These are the Diamonds in our Lives. Love them well.

 

I am aware of how phenomenal my dear, old friend Joanne is, and what an extraordinary woman and human being she has become. And she is not old…Just at the beginning of her Now Moment!

As the extraordinary Maya Angelou says:

“I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he or she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life. I’ve learned that making a “living” is not the same thing as making a “life.” I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one.  I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn.  I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

I thank God for the Beauty of Friendship! 

I Believe in Love! I Believe in Kindness! I Believe in Goodness!

I Belive in Love. I Believe in Kindness. I Believe in Goodness.

I Belive in Love.  I Believe in Kindness.  I Believe in Goodness.

 

The Dictionary defines the word ‘Believe’ as:
1) Accept (something) as true; feel sure of the truth of: • Accept the statement of (someone) as true: he didn’t believe her or didn’t want to know: • have faith: • (believe something of someone) feel sure that (someone) is capable of a particular action: I wouldn’t have believed it—what an extraordinary woman!
2) Hold (something) as an opinion; think or suppose: I believe we’ve already met; things were not as bad as the experts believed. 

The Dictionary defines ‘Belief’ as:
1) An acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists: his belief in the value of hard work | a belief that solitude nourishes creativity: • something one accepts as true or real; a firmly held opinion or conviction: • a religious conviction: Christian beliefs| local beliefs and customs. 2) (belief in) trust, faith, or confidence in someone or something: I’ve still got belief in myself.
PHRASES: I am firmly of the belief that we need to improve our… beyond belief astonishingly good or bad; incredible: riches beyond belief…to the best of my belief, in my genuine opinion; as far as I know …blah….blah….blah…! ~  ~  ~  ~  ~

 

Oh La La…!  Beyond anything else, I Believe in Love and the Power of Love that transforms and heals lives.  It is the only thing that actually does.  I also believe in Goodness and Kindness and Gentleness.  Love is Grace and a miraculous power that healed my life at the young age of 17, when I thought it was all over.  All Sentient Beings feel this Power of Love.  Yet so few of us give into it wholeheartedly and completely.  What is it about an innocent child or a dog, or any animal that just loves you completely, and loves life, just as it is, so unconditionally?   It’s an extraordinary experience to witness a baby or a child at play, just as it is with a puppy or a newborn infant.  They only know Love.  They only know sweetness and kindness and goodness.  This is their natural energy field and their pure vibration.  And that Love is unconditional…no matter what else is going on in the world, anywhere.  It is pure LOVE.  

I am not by any means close to the dictionary’s definition of the words ‘Believe’ or “Belief’… but maybe today I am much closer to believing in the Goodness of all, and for all, even after so much heart break and recent killings in America and around the world in 2015.  With each heart break, it takes me to my knees as I witness these children fleeing from their homeland and everything they have ever known.  I feel the collapse of their families and these communities as they all try to find their own way to heal beyond this enormous grief and loss.  Leaving one’s own homeland and culture and family home is hard enough…but to also loose your family and your loved one’s along the way is something else entirely…much harder and more difficult to comprehend, especially for the children. 

My own parent’s experienced this kind of loss as young teenagers leaving their roots, their homes, their family, their Country, their native culture and language to find freedom and save their own lives somewhere else.  From Germany and France to Shanghai, China…there they met on a steamy night in a hot room filled with smoke and hopefulness. World War 2 was in full swing.  And they fell in Love!  It took my Father many more trips around the world and at sea to finally come back to Shanghai and marry my Mother.  But this was not an easy thing to do.  Coming from different Countries with different languages, passports, and religions, not to mention that WW2 was in full swing made it almost impossible.  No matter how sweet and true was their Love for each other, no one wanted to marry them!  It was war time.  They were from different Countries and religious backgrounds.  Finally my father realized that he could marry Mum offshore, three miles out with the Captain of the Ship finally announcing “Husband & Wife”.  And so it was!  As they came back to the shores off Shanghai, they finally had their Wedding Reception in a church that recognized their union as husband & wife.  What an extraordinary experience my Mum & Dad had to go through to prove their Love for each other.  My mother often wondered if he would ever come back for her.  I think it was the dozenth attempt to get married at Sea that finally made it official as Husband & Wife!  I’m certain it was a test of their strength and determination to forge ahead in their Love for each other.  Thank God! 

As for the children fleeing their own Countries now, I pray for them to find a new home that fully accepts them and appreciates them, and allows them to move forward with Grace and Ease…without political turmoil or separation.  Canada seems to be doing a fine job with these immigrants at the moment and far better than anywhere else.  When my own parents married during the war, they were finally free to leave Shanghai and move to America when the war ended.  And so they did!  Off to the shores of New York City as they passed the Statue of Liberty along the way.  Freedom!  I thank God for America and the Greatness of this Country and what it represents to all people.  Yes, we are a pizza pie of many nationalities and cultures from foreign lands, as it should be.  This is what makes America great! 

I know for sure that there is a Force of Love far greater than we can ever imagine in this Universe that is guiding us. Every hope you have and every dream that inspires you is a message from the Divine.  Keep your Heart open, and look up to the heavens every day and give thanks.  Open the curtains and the windows.  Open your Heart to this Present Moment and look inside the eyes of someone near you, close to you. Take the time to gaze inside the eyes of your closest friends and family.  Everyone in front of you is a Blessing, right here and now.  And you have a gift to give them.  

There is infinity and eternity inside our bones and DNA.  In our core essence and inside of our hearts lies an infinity that is greater than what we could ever dream of, or imagine for ourselves.  Allow LOVE to come to your aid.  Invite Joy and Happiness in.  Feel the Gratitude for all that is.  Allow all that is meant for you to flow freely, inside your Heart, Mind, Body & Soul. 

We are so Blessed to be here on this gorgeous planet Earth, in this moment of time.  There is a Divine pattern working in and through us… and whether we are aware of it or not, this is the sacred and unknown tapestry, the mystery, weaving everyday Miracles in our lives.   If we sit quietly long enough, this Divine Energy will arrive inside our conscious awareness, and stillness will bring us into the fullness.  Peace.  Beauty. 

Every new revelation and every new awareness in our consciousness keeps us growing, evolving, learning, and most importantly, it keeps us moving forward as a human species.  Even when it’s a hard day, or week, or month or even a year or so,…someone, somewhere is suffering much more than you.  Give it up.  Let go.  Get involved and help others.  It’s the only way out of your own personal rut.  Give back, even when you think you can’t… just do it!

I sometimes reflect on the mass killings on American soil and abroad this past year.  What is this all about?  Why are young children so angry?  Is anyone listening to them?  Is their voice being heard?  Are their feelings being felt and acknowledged and understood?  Where does their anger and hatred come from?  Any why?   What are we teaching our children?  And what are we doing with all these guns?  Guns = Killing.  Period.  What are we doing with a massive stockpile of guns on American soil that any young child can buy?  Why?  What do we need to protect ourselves from?  If fear is of your utmost concern, then that fear is also your enemy. It is fear, and fear alone, that will drive sane men and women to commit heinous acts of violence they did not think they were humanly capable of.  It happens every day.  College campuses, churches, cafes, offices, streets, sporting events, music concerts…high schools & elementary schools, on and on.

 

It’s a choice:  Fear or Love.  What’s it going to be?  What will you choose?  Do you need the gun to kill your neighbor before he kills you?  Is this what it’s come to?  Protection idealism can also equate to human ignorance.   What is your belief? 

Fear contricts, limits, and closes up everything.  It builds borders and walls that create more hate, more separation, and more violence and misunderstanding.  Do you want to build another ‘Berlin wall’ on American soil?  One of our Presidential candidates thinks it’s a good idea! I thought we were done with the days of Hitler’s past. What are we doing now?  God Help Us!  We need a Leader in the U.S., someone like Winston Churchill, Margaret Thatcher, and Robert F. Kennedy all in one to lead us out of this disgrace and narrow minded thinking.  Lift us up, away from fear! 

Fear is an energy that resides in your consciousness.  It’s in the way you think.  It’s in the way you act and behave.  It’s in the core of your cells and the flow of your bloodstream, and that fear will not leave you until you change your thoughts and conscious awareness.  Love above all else.  Let go of your frozen fear.  It’s keeping you stuck, and it’s killing too many young and innocent children, tearing families apart at their seams.  Fear is full of destruction and death. Love is full of inclusion, creativity, and birth.  

What does it take to open up your Heart?  Why have you lost so much Trust and Faith?  What do you Believe in, and at your core heart center, what is really important to you?  Isn’t it always about the children and grandchildren and your core family and friends you’ve adopted into your family?  What are your Beliefs?  What is your Truth?  Examine them. Look at your core beliefs carefully. Make sure they are in alignment with the Divine, and with real Truth and Goodness and Kindness.  Every teacher and every day brings a different perspective, depending on whom your teachers are, and with whom you surround yourself with.  

What’s it going to be….Love or Fear?

What is Truth but a Belief in something that you Believe in?  Yet in all of our glory and in all of our beautiful days on this glorious planet Earth, I do Believe in Divine Grace, and Beauty, and the Power of Goodness and Kindness at the Heart of every human being, and throughout the animal kingdom. There is a sacred pattern and natural flow in everything. In the very core essence of my Being and in the center of my Bones and DNA, as it is in you.  This beautiful and magnificent Life Lives me, Breathes me, and Gifts me with Love, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness every day!  And I am Grateful.  Life is living me from the inside out.

 

Reflecting back on this year, as we now approach the coming of a New Year, 2016, I can’t help but think about the families and friends across America and distant Shores and Countries that have lost Loved One’s.  The neighborhood senseless killings, the brutal attacks in public places, the innocents that just happened to be there at that moment, the horror of guns and war and violence, and the latest uprising of angry, heartless, almost soul-less and desperate people who kill other people for no reason.  This is human insanity!  Who is teaching our children? What are they teaching our children?

 

Is it a ‘firmly held opinion or conviction’ of something taught long ago in our childhood, or is it an original idea of something new?   Is it an ‘old belief’ to help us feel more secure that creates the possibility of a particular action? And what is that action?  Will it help to heal and serve in the name of Love and Human Kindness, or will it kill and destroy?  What is my belief?  What is your belief?  How do you want to show up in this New Year, 2016?  Hopefully in Full Magnificence, owning your own power through the Divine with Grace, Gratitude, and Beauty as you give of your own unique Gifts you have been given. 

 

I Believe in the Power of LOVE.   I Believe in Kindness.  I Believe in Goodness. I also Believe in a Universal Power far greater than myself…a Power that aligns with all the Planets and gives us the Gift of our next Breath, along with the Sun, the Moon, the Stars, and the Oceans.  Every Day!  God is Present.  God is Almighty.  It is only the human being that destroys, destructs and decimates the fragile, the voiceless, and the weak who are unable to care for or protect themselves.  This is our human ignorance.  And it must change in 2016 if we are to evolve as a human species and recognize the sacredness of all life and the enormous gifts we have been given.  Look up.  Look around you.  The Earth, Nature and the Animals will no longer tolerate our selfishness and abuse.  Above all else, we as Spiritual Beings, living a Human experience must change our consciousness and evolve.  It is time.  And the time is NOW.  In a few hours we will enter inside the silky clean slate of a New Year, without anything written upon it.  May we create a new history of our human consciousness, one that is awake, aware, and respectful of all Life.  Sacred Blessings to all in 2016!

 

 

 

 

 

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