Rita Tanos Editorial http://ritatanos.com Creation. Love. Beauty. Luscious Synchronicity. Everyday Miracles. Gratitude. Nuggets of Wisdom. Radiant Heart Blessings. Sweet, Abundant, Beautiful Life! Welcome to my World of Mystery & Enchantment. Mon, 17 Jun 2019 03:22:53 +0000 en-US hourly 1 Romance in Shanghai http://ritatanos.com/?p=1336 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1336#respond Mon, 17 Jun 2019 03:22:53 +0000 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1336

My handsome Dad!

Dad. He meant the world to me.  This photograph was taken in Shanghai when he was courting my beautiful Mom.  Happy Fathers Day to all the Dads!  

It isn’t often you come across a man like Dusty.  He was full of fire and fury, and love and laughter.  A true romantic at heart who loved adventure and traveling around the world. Perhaps most of all he loved my mother, next to his first love, the ocean.  His big warm heart would swell with laughter that was always contagious, filling the room. He had a zest for life and living it to the fullest, every day.  His heart was also tender and compassionate, always lending a helping hand to anyone who needed it.  

He had movie star good looks, as did Mom.  They were a perfect match for each other! Coming from different worlds in Europe. . . France, Hungary, Germany, and now meeting in Shanghai during the war. Their eyes locked from across a crowded room and that was the beginning of a new world for both of them. They fell in Love and after many travels and departures from the port of Shanghai, they finally married at sea on my father’s ship. Their love was stronger than any desire to protect their past identities, countries of origin and the many challenges that met them in Shanghai.

Dad loved to dance and listen to romantic music, especially Frank Sinatra. He would schmooze my mom onto a dance floor every time with his charm and good looks. She simply could not resist him. And she was lucky. . . her mother also adored him and gave him her approval to marry her daughter. In the wink of an eye and a chance meeting in a place far across the world from where they both began, love took root and they finally left Shanghai when the war ended, as a newly married couple. New York City was the next stop. And the one after that was the sunny beaches of Florida.  

My father came from a large family and it must have been synchronicity that brought them all together in Florida. New husbands and wives. Babies and children. And a life that was not always easy to find their way, and always full of challenges, hopes and dreams, but somehow, through the thick and thin of it they all gathered together as a family.

Miami Beach became their new home, when it was still pristine and natural. Clean beautiful oceans. Quiet. Privacy. No hotels or high-rises. No condos. Just beautiful pristine beaches and islands that connected to the mainland by causeways and bridges. It was an ideal environement for my dad who loved the ocean. But all of this changed when Frank Sinatra came to Miami Beach with his new wife, Ava Gardner, and nestled into a small hotel on the beach. The press brought curiosity to these lovely sandy beaches, and not long after, it attracted developers who ruined the natural beauty of these beach towns. Along with them came the New Yorkers and droves of people from the Northeast. Everything began to change from that moment on.

It’s extraordinary to me that so many of our family members found a way to create a new life in the same place.  For me in many ways it was a ‘heaven on earth’ growing up there. There was not a day I was not in the ocean. . . boating, fishing, sailing, swimming, surfing, and water sports were my daily inspiration. And so many travels to the Bahamas and the Caribbean.  I can’t thank Dad enough for this.  It will stay with me the rest of my life. 

Thank God for his passion. Thank God for his vision. Thank God for his romantic heart and soul. Thank God for his love and laughter.  The last time I saw my father was on New Year’s Eve many years ago.  He and Mom came to visit me during the Christmas holidays when I lived in Malibu.  We had a small family dinner at a charming restaurant nearby on the ocean, and it was one of those special nights when Dad’s laughter filled the room.  

He witnessed Mom taking a photograph from a small flash camera that was backwards and up-side-down in her small hands…thus not capturing our family, but her dress.  He burst out laughing, and I will never forget how contagious his sweet laughter was. It filled the whole room and before we knew it, the story left our table and went on to the next, and the next. We all had tears in our eyes from laughing so hard! (One of those moments when you had to be there to ‘feel’ the laughter and joy.)

Finally the dinner arrived as did the celebratory New Year’s Eve music, dance and champagne. And once again I watched Mom and Dad dance together for the last and final time.  It was there, at the end of these special moments and wonderful evening together that I said my final goodbye to my father. I am so grateful it was such a happy moment in our lives together, as a family celebrating the New Year.  None of us could have dreamed or imagined he would be gone eleven months later. 

Life is so sweet!  Thank you Dad!  Thank you for all your Love! And for all the many years we shared together.  You were one of the greatest Blessings in my Life! I Love You!

And I do know that our love is eternal.  You live right here inside my heart, always and forever. XOXO

 

 

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Mom’s Rickshaw http://ritatanos.com/?p=1327 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1327#respond Thu, 16 May 2019 05:31:11 +0000 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1327  

 

Mom In Shanghai, China

 

This is my Beautiful Mom in Shanghai, China on her Rickshaw during the war when she was a young teenage girl. She left behind her beautiful home in Berlin and everything she knew that was safe and comfortable about her life in Germany to travel across the world and begin a new life in Shanghai. And she did!  She fell in love with my Father, a charming French and Hungarian man, and began a new life in America when the war ended.  They got married in Shanghai, but it was not until the dozenth time that it became official on an American Ship when my Father asked the Captain to take them 3 miles out from shore and marry them. Victory! Love Always Wins!

This Mother’s Day 2019, I feel deeply honored to celebrate with my Mom who is 95 and still standing. Tall, Strong, and Mighty! She taught me so many things about life, but perhaps most of all, she taught me about patience and self care…She always said “You have to live with yourself and find your own balance. . . your own harmony.” And certainly you do to live a life well lived!

Happy Mother’s Day to all the Mothers!  I believe every woman is a mother to so many.

 

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Notre Dame Cathedral: The Day After http://ritatanos.com/?p=1317 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1317#respond Wed, 17 Apr 2019 03:11:43 +0000 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1317

Notre Dame Cathedral: Protection

The day after. . .

Notre Dame Cathedral is still standing. The heart and soul of the people of France will rebuild as the world stands with them.  Pledges of hundreds of millions of euros are rolling in from both the French and international donors.  It may take decades to restore this extraordinary architectural landmark and sacred grounds. The healing has begun.

 

The day after…

The Sacred Chapel of Notre Dame 

The Fire…

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Softly Letting Go http://ritatanos.com/?p=1301 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1301#comments Tue, 01 Jan 2019 04:44:28 +0000 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1301

Softly Letting Go

A crisp and beautiful New Year is arriving, welcoming us into the quiet joy and deep calmness of a life well lived in Gratitude.

On the cusp of this new year, I find myself reflecting on how much I have learned about the beauty of softly letting go.  I am grateful for all the experiences that have brought me deeper inside, to love and accept myself more beautifully, especially on the hard days and in the dark spaces.  

I have smiled more often this past year, even through the pain.  I have learned to speak kind words every day as the smallest act of kindness and caring for another.  And perhaps most important, I have learned to love my beautiful mind more deeply and appreciate the integrity of listening quietly to the voice within me.  

I am grateful for the blessings of change, renewal, and rejuvenation that continue to soften my heart to open more fully, and my mind and body to rest in quiet peace.  The soul always gives us resilience – an essential quality that helps us rebound from hardship and challenge. And as my soulful angel Sarah Blondin says:

It is in the discovery of our inner mystery that we remain curious and receptive to our inner landscape as we intentionally and consciously work toward the outcome we long for.  Learning to be intimate with our heart, mind, and body leads us to Grace as we hold our life with sacred hands. Tenderness is required.  And if we are listening closely to our deep inner wisdom, our feelings will guide us away from suffering and into the surrender of the heart. Inner wisdom will always speak to us if we listen closely.  Our heart expands.

Living with clear intention places our hearts in alignment with love.  As life comes to confront you, weigh each experience in the palm of your hands.  Will these words bring my heart peace and calm or will they cause a storm of hurt and harm or insult? Does this choice bring each person involved into the most loving reality?  Does it uplift or drown my being and theirs?  Does this action bring wind beneath me? Does it expand my sight and seeing? Does it bring wide open horizons or does it bind me closed? What can you hear in the simple rhythms of your body and heart?  

All you must ask is:  Does this choice I am making speak to who I long to be, how I wish to feel, how I wish to make others feel?  Does this choice I am making speak to how I wish for my life to unfold, how I wish to be seen and received?  It’s time to remember now this wisdom within you, your very own instructions in living.  Great love awaits you in the open field of your unprotected heart.  So simple they are, so easy it can become.  It’s time to remember that you know this already. . .this great and wise self woven around you.  It is but one choice,  into the open field of your unprotected heart.

Feel the breeze.  Breath in.  Breath out.  Living with clear intention places your heart in alignment with love.  Your inner guidance system will lead you to flow, uplift, and connection.  Stay Soft. Invite your inner wisdom to speak to you in your quiet moments of rest and respite.

Hello 2019!  May our healing and rejuvenation restore our beautiful mind and heart, body and soul to live more softly, more fully awake and consciously aware of the miracles of living each day with an open heart filled with Gratitude. 

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Prayer Books http://ritatanos.com/?p=1292 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1292#respond Tue, 30 Oct 2018 08:28:16 +0000 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1292 Prayer Books

Prayer Books

This is my Mother’s Prayer Book that lies on her bedside table. It was given to her by her Tante Frieda on October 11, 1936 on her 13th Birthday in Berlin. It is the Talmud, the centerpiece of Jewish cultural life.

My Oma, my mother’s Mother was a Catholic who fell in love with a Jewish man and married him.  My Grandfather was wise enough to realize it was time to leave Berlin in 1943 and moved the family to Shanghai, China. Another Love Story began in Shanghai when my Mother fell in love with a French / Hungarian / American man who sailed there during the war. After 11 attempts, they finally married at sea, during the 12th ceremony, 3 miles out from Shanghai, on my Father’s ship. Love always wins! My Father was a Christian Catholic and so the roles reversed once again. Love is always the winner, not religion.

As I listen to the news and read all the stories about the present human insanity, and the man who fired up his guns in a synagogue to kill innocent Jewish people, it breaks my heart that there is so much hatred against Jewish communities and people. Temples are for respite, reflection, sanctuary, family, friends, and love. A sacred place to worship and rest in the quiet and silence. So is the church, and any sacred ground of worship . . . no matter the faith or religion. It’s time to come together. And next week, November 6th, it’s time to vote out hatred in this country. Love always wins.

My Beloved Mother’s ancient Prayer Book gifted to her on her 13th Birthday, October 1936.

 

 

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Crowns and Melons http://ritatanos.com/?p=1282 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1282#respond Sun, 23 Sep 2018 05:05:20 +0000 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1282 Is she stealing my Crown?

A bit of a mirror image born together in the same womb, yet so beautifully unique while joined at the hip and heart forever.  One observes what the other one is doing, and the other twin observes back.  How extraordinary to be joined together from the beginning of life, until perhaps the end of life.

 

Twins First Birthday

Today is the celebration of their first Birthday, my Nephews Twins.  One year old.  Imagine that!  The constant flow of imagination, fantasy, and dreams that all young children dream.  We dress them up as we see fit, but their extraordinary imagination and ideas are so Brilliant, and beyond any human adults understanding.  They move us forward, onward, and upward with their invincible minds, their beautiful thoughts, and gorgeous imagination.  We as adults grow weary of the magic they possess as we grow older. It’s not so easy inside the box, the rigid center of compliance, obedience, observance, and adherence to conformity. It stifles us, it makes us rigid and inflexible, and it distorts all the beauty around us. Somehow our adult years take us there, beyond the imagination of our youth.

Young children hold the same imagination as Peter Pan and Mary Poppins in their Hearts and Minds.  It is pure and vulnerable.  It is innocent.  It is precious.  And it is filled with treasure.  They see and imagine things that we will never see.  And it is my belief that they hold the keys to our future in ways we have never dreamed of.

Healing the planet.  Healing each other.  Healing all the destruction that has gone on for far to many decades.  Our forests and the nature of this beautiful planet, the animals and putting an end to factory farming, encouraging a stronger alliance with Vegan diets, our Oceans and Rivers, and putting an end to over fishing, our Climate Change and putting an end to fossil fuels, . . . our everything that means Everything to the health, well being, and continuation of our planet.

 

 

When I look at these precious One Year Old Twins today, at their first Birthday Party, I can’t help but imagine what they might bring to the world around them. Their parents are beautiful people, and they are what Love is all about…they honor and respect each other.  They work hard to bring good into everyone’s lives. They are blessed to have two healthy twin daughters and they are all about family, and the love within and around that family.  I sense and hope that their children will reach beyond anything they ever imagined and contribute to the health and well being of this planet.  That goes for politics too.  We all need to release the negative BS and start celebrating the positive.  It’s not about party.  It’s about Truth and Honesty and Integrity.  Our basic principles.  Our constitution.  If you haven’t read it lately, I welcome you to re-educate yourself and why it is so important to every American. 

 

The Golden Crown of America is about honesty, truth, and integrity.  It is what our nation stands for.  Go above and beyond your call of duty and recognize what is happening in America today.  Everyone needs your voice.  Everyone needs your vote, especially our children, our grandchildren, our nieces, our nephews, our brothers and sisters, and our parents.  Be Aware!  Be Awake!  Be Alive! Do something…don’t stand still!

 

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The Universe is Always Whispering… http://ritatanos.com/?p=1263 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1263#respond Wed, 15 Aug 2018 04:12:19 +0000 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1263 The Universe is always speaking to us!

 

The Universe was whispering to me today.  It always does, but this afternoon it spoke a bit more loudly than usual.  Enough to pay attention to and lean in closely.  To listen carefully and feel what I was feeling.  Frank Sinatra music was playing in the background: “It was a very good year”.  A lifetime of reflection indeed.

I was gazing out the window, waiting to pick up dinner for my Mum.  This has always been her favorite neighborhood Italian restaurant, and pasta, pizza, and a salad were on the way.  Her comfort food for a night in.  As I sat there quietly, two of the waiters came over to greet me, leaving me with a hug and soft touch on my shoulder.  Mum and I have known these waiters for at least ten years.  Perhaps they sensed that I was missing the days when my Mum and family would come to dine here often.

Peering through the windows of gardens on the street, I reminisced about the days when I would bring my Puppy and leave her close by.  Always at the gate, nearby the table on the patio we always sat.  Many family get togethers over the years were shared here and many happy days!  And today, as the music from Frankie pipes through and I listen to his lyrics, “It Was a Very Good Year”, it reminds me of all those lovely years and times gone by when our family was together, year after year. 

What I felt and noticed today was that only I was visible, picking up a take out dinner for my Mum. All had changed, as life does. But the waiters were there, in all there sweetness, acknowledging me in the kindest of ways.  Somehow I think they felt my heart skip a beat in that moment.

I am always reminded each day when I get to share time with my Mum that it is an Extraordinary Blessing!  My Heart is filled with Gratitude.  And yet, I know her time is near.  She is 94 years old…soon to reach 95 and her lifetime batteries are slowing down.  Mum’s time on this planet and her Love she has given to so many has reached out, into the Universe, and is so very precious and beautiful. I simply don’t know how I’ll ever survive without her, but I will.  She has always been a BIG part of my Life, and a Pillar of Strength.  But letting go, when she is ready to let go is also a part of the journey of Life and Love. I pray that I will be ready when she is ready.  And a Blessing to her Life and Legend.  She is one of a kind!

What I do know for sure is that Life continues on, long after the physical human form is gone.  I left my body at the age of 19 and came back.  There was more to do and so much more beauty, life, and love to discover.  I was Gifted and Blessed with a return home to earth, before I make my soul transition. I am here for now. And I am grateful and recognize the Blessing of each new day. 

I know for sure that Life goes on…that there is total Oneness, and that while I’m here, there are so many more gifts of Beauty, Love, and Friendship I am yet to discover.  

For Mum:

“But now the days grow short
I’m in the autumn of the year
And now I think of my life as vintage wine
From fine old kegs
From the brim to the dregs
And it poured sweet and clear
It was a very good year…”

– Frank Sinatra  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-bhNz6saaE8

 

 

 

 

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Total Lunar Eclipse: Full Moon Yoga http://ritatanos.com/?p=1259 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1259#respond Fri, 27 Jul 2018 21:54:35 +0000 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1259

Golden Ceiling

Look Up!  Tonight is the longest total Lunar Eclipse of the 21st Century!  

Full Moon Yoga at the Beach.  Monarch Sunsets with Full Red Moon rising. 

Be a Stargazer and a Moon Watcher for some stunning Celestial Skies tonight.

Mars will be one of the brightest celestial objects lighting up our night time sky along with a blood red eclipsed Moon, as Mars makes its closest approach to the earth since 2013.

During this rare occurrence of celestial events, we will be able to see the Red Planet glowing brightly in Aquarius beside the Full Moon.  

Certainly a beautiful summer night for Star Gazing & Moon watching.  

Where will you be and what beautiful thoughts will you be thinking about?

 

 

 

 

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Years May Go By. . . http://ritatanos.com/?p=1244 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1244#respond Thu, 26 Jul 2018 07:01:09 +0000 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1244

Rosemarie Stack & Rita Tanos

Years may go by. . . we lose touch with cherished friends we think we’ll see again soon, and in the blink of eye, they are gone.  Into the ethereal realms of the heavens and God space…the eternal oneness.

This is my dear friend Rosemarie Stack whom I shared a beautiful friendship with for more than 25 years.  We were introduced during my years as head of W Magazine for the Western U.S. and became instant friends.  Her husband, Bob Stack was still with her at that time when they lived in a lovely home in Bel Air.  We co-hosted many parties together with friends, and friends of friends when Bob was still in good health and full of life.

Then came the terrible news that Bob had cancer and was undergoing radiation treatment.  It was a difficult time for the Stacks, especially Bob.  He was always so energetic, full of life and laughter and always telling jokes.  He simply loved life so much.  Within a heartbeat his life changed, and so did Rosemarie’s.  They shared a beautiful marriage, and a life long friendship and romance until the end in 2003, when Bob passed through the veils.

Rosemarie knew instantly that she could not stay in the home they shared together for so many years. Too many memories of the Love of her Life. So she decided to sell it and buy a condo on the Wilshire Corridor that once belonged to Lucy Doheny Battson, widow of the oil heir Edward “Ned” Doheny Jr.  Yes, those Doheny’s. 

Soon after a complete renovation of this stunning 5,000 square foot residence with 2,000 square feet of limestone patio and gardens, designed by David Jones, that included serious huge trees, flowers and waterfalls, Rosemarie decided to buy a gorgeous Villa in Cuernavaca, Mexico.  She asked me to come and join her to decorate her master bedroom, and 8 guest rooms.  So I said yes.

But before taking on that opportunity and challenge of a huge Villa in Cuernavaca, Rosemarie choose to have several parties at her new Wilshire address that included extraordinary people. Nancy Reagan, and Buzz Aldrin, the second person to walk on the Moon were among them.  And so many others from the film industry that Bob and Rosemarie shared a friendship with.  It was quite a series of welcoming parties into Rosemarie’s new abode.  

Upon every visit, I was asked in advance to stay overnight in her guest room/den. She always teased me with the flirtation that Steven Spielberg has slept in her den (and he did) and has a plaque on the wall, above the bed that proclaims it.  So I stayed, and spent several overnights while looking up at photographs of the Stacks’ life in Hollywood. There are images of Clark Gable and Carol Lombard, and one of Robert Stack playing polo with Spencer Tracy, and with President and Nancy Reagan, and a Life magazine cover of Rosemarie.

After four years of back and forth trips to Mexico, Rosemarie finally moved into her Villa in Cuernavaca.  It was stunning and peaceful and beautiful.  And we were both delighted with her Master Bedroom and the 8 guest rooms I helped to design.  

Rosemarie pursued her painting (which she was quite good at) and loved full retirement, away from the hustle and bustle of Los Angeles.  When I last saw Rosemarie, she had recently sold her Doheny Condo on Wilshire and already moved to Cuernavaca full time.  There was a knowing between us that this day would be the last time we would ever see each other.  And so it is and was.  Surrounded by glass tower windows in the Wilshire corridor of L.A., there we stood saying our final goodbyes.

Years may go by. . . so quickly, and in the blink of an eye your cherished friends may be gone.  Life is precious, and every one we share it with is even more precious. Treasure every moment together, and recognize the gift that they are in your life.  Today I am left with the wonderful memories and the laughter we shared together for so many years.  

 

 

 

 

 

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Unfinished Manuscripts http://ritatanos.com/?p=1238 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1238#respond Wed, 11 Jul 2018 04:23:04 +0000 http://ritatanos.com/?p=1238 Unfinished Manuscripts

 

So many blank books lie in my hands,

unfinished manuscripts broken by time,

yet unwritten, and barely just begun, 

or in need of a new beginning once again,

or a final ending, if there is ever an ending.

 

Disappearing words with forgotten notes,

sliding off pages, with chapters hidden,

no where to go, with this or that…

just the in-between space of silence.

 

Half forgotten blank entries 

inside a journal,

holding too many secrets,

that spill over into next chapters

that even I am yet to discover.

 

There lies an opening…

a chapter half written, 

with barely discovered voice

crying out with passion

inside the distance,

somewhere between voice

and silence.

 

It is always there,

the great silence,

firmly grounded in memories,

and in presence, in this moment,

slipping through conscious mind,

into the unconscious,

and back again.

 

Here and now.

Always and forever.

Constantly changing form, forever changing,

always seeking new beginnings

along side final endings.

 

The Yin and the Yang.

The circumference of their universe.

Forever evolving,

Always moving forward with every current,

Energy always flowing,

forever changing,

moving us all towards

next steps of evolution.

Our unwritten manuscripts make no difference,

it is only in the energy of now,

and in the gifts we share each day

that make a difference. Be here now.

 

Unfinished Manuscripts

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