Every New Year begins with a cycle of new beginning’s… new hopes…new dreams… new possibilities, and also endings. For some of us it is also about letting go of someone or something often important and meaningful in our lives. It’s not easy, never easy, …but in some ways we find Grace and Gratitude along the way.
I am struck by the beauty of what Liz Gilbert shared yesterday in her posts on Instagram and Facebook about her best friend, her big love, and her beloved companion of many years, Rayya Elias. It speaks to all of us.
“She was my love, my heart, my best friend, my teacher, my rebel, my angel, my protector, my challenger, my partner, my muse, my wizard, my surprise, my gift, my comet, my liberator, my rock star, my completely impossible non-cooperator, my otherworldly visitor, my spiritual portal, and my baby. I loved you so much, Rayya. Thank you for letting me walk with you right to the edge of the river. It has been the greatest honor of my life. I would tell you to rest in peace, but I know that you always found peace boring. May you rest in excitement. I will always love you.”
What I Love and Adore most about this deeply meaningful prayer message is: ” Thank you for letting me walk with you right to the edge of the river.”
I too am walking this path to the edge of the river right now with my Beloved Mother. It is a complete lifetime of our loving each other, and our many decades of beauty, joy, friendship, hardship, and learning how to love each other more beautifully and kindly each and every day. We have shared so much Love & Joy for so many decades and I can’t imagine my life without Mum. We are One. She is the anchor to my heart and soul. But I know too that one day she will say goodbye. I can already witness the signs of her tiredness and a beginning to let go of it all. There are many sights and sounds that I am aware of.
I thank God and the Divine that my Mother is still here with me now, healthy, happy, and full of wit, humor, good sense, and energy! At the graceful age of 94 , Mum still drives her car, and she works out every morning for 20 minutes. After breakfast and a relaxing morning, she drives herself to her club where she plays mahjong, and bridge every day. It keeps her mind sharp and active. And one day a week she volunteers at the Senior Center in the morning and does the accounting and check-in for all the luncheon attendees. I am so Blessed to have an active and independent Mother like this! But she would have it no other way. Nor would I!
When we get inside the thick and the thin of it all, we manage to adjust our sails. It’s all about going with the flow…some days are easier than others, but we manage to make it work beautifully, gracefully, and with endearing hearts for each other.
Life is always about adjusting your sails to make the most of each moment. And the beauty always lies within each moment.