October 8th 1935 – May 18th, 2014
Today is my Beloved Best Friends Memorial Celebration at Kerb’s Toy Boat House in Central Park, NYC. In honor of Adrianne and the beautiful friendship we shared, Hari will read my Eulogy. May 18th, 2015
“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”
– Anais Nin
That’s how it was with us. . . Adrianne and I. We were a world unto each other, and by the Grace of Divine Destiny, our paths crossed long ago and united us on a journey of the Soul. A long journey of friendship, love, deep connection and soul companionship that blended us together and joined us as One.
Almost 3 Decades have passed since the day we met. It was an instant connection of the heart. I was at W Magazine in charge of the Western U. S., and Adrianne was in New York City. When she left Woman’s Wear Daily and became part of the W family, I said “Hello” and she recognized something in me that was also inside of herself. We both Meditated. We both went on Spiritual Retreats. We both studied with the same Teachers. We both practiced Yoga. And we both worked in a company that was worlds apart from our inner Spiritual Beings. But we also loved Beauty and Fashion, and knew how to bring out the best in every designer and in every situation.
It was a Blessing to have found each other in such an unusual setting such as W. While it reflected our backgrounds in luxury and the world of fashion, it did not reflect what was going on inside of us and our consciousness. But there we were, with bills to pay, and apartments to buy, and new dreams to be had. So we journeyed on this path as long as we could bear it. . . until we could not bear it any more. After a decade at W, I left to start my own company and Adrianne was so delighted that I had found my courage to move on.
As I reached new pinnacles of success with my new company, Adrianne was always there, cheering me on. My professional life and company took off, but my personal life was suffering. I experienced so many deaths within my close circle of family and friends in such a short time. What broke my heart open the most was losing my own Daughter recently. Adrianne was there once again with open arms and her exquisite heart. She held me like a loving child that needed care and Love. She understood the depths of my loss that I could not put into words. She cooked scrambled eggs with tomatoes and served them to me in the morning. She placed a pillow under my head at night. She loved me. She cared for me as only a close friend can. And she wore silk pajamas as she did all of this! Adrianne understood the depths of my pain as she comforted me with her endless Love. This is a True Friend who understood me better than my own family.
She knew me from the inside out. All the bare, dark corners that lay hidden inside me, from the rest of the world. She understood my emptiness. She felt it too. But somehow, in this cocoon of her Love and Friendship, and inside of her home, I felt safe and protected from the world outside.
While I know the Soul is eternal, I was lost inside my grief. Adrianne called every day. We talked long hours about death, and about how precious life is. I will always remember her words and the sound of her voice. For the last 2 years of Adrianne’s life she spoke often about how precious every moment is and how fast and fleeting life is. We both read Stephen Levine’s book: “A Year To Live”. As I look back at this time, I believe Adrianne was already preparing herself for her own journey home.
My beautiful friend Adrianne….You were a world unto me that filled me up with delight and surprise, and created new dimensions of space inside my mind and heart, soul and spirit. You were an architect of my soul’s evolution as we shared, uncovered, built and re-built the stories of our past, present and future. We dreamed. We imagined. We laughed. We cried. We howled. We thought. We prayed. We meditated. We wept. We walked. We talked. We constructed and de-constructed a million pounds of weight that no longer belonged to either of us, in both of our worlds. We excavated. We created demolition zones where they needed to be. And we built fortresses and safe camps when we needed them, and then softly let them go when we did not.
This was the gift we shared. The unconditional Love and Acceptance of each other, in all ways, always. No judgement. No attitude. No opinion. No structure. No walls. No expectations. No false belief systems. Just clear, honest, open space to be truly and authentically who we were with each other. This is the deep embrace of our Friendship. This loving space was always open and available, inviting us inward. It was the world we shared inside of our beautiful Friendship with each other, where new worlds were possible and often created.
My Beloved Friend and Soul Sister, Adrianne, you are living inside my Heart. Thank you for Loving me the way you did. Your Light shines on always and forever. I will miss your Heart, but I will always carry it with me. I Love You! Rita